In a candid interview on Elizabeth Day’s “How to Fail” podcast, Melinda Gates shared the pivotal moment when she knew her marriage to Microsoft founder Bill Gates was beyond repair. Reflecting on her relationship, Melinda revealed that she initially ignored the warning signs, attributing them to external factors outside their marriage.
“I kept pushing it away,” Melinda admitted, recalling moments when doubts surfaced. Despite these feelings, she continued to believe in their shared work, particularly the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, which they co-founded and which remains a cornerstone of their legacy.
However, as Bill’s infidelity became known, Melinda acknowledged that she could no longer ignore the reality of her situation. “At some point, I had to turn towards it, and I just knew it in my soul,” she confessed, marking the point when she realised their relationship had come to an end.
She emphasized the difficulty of leaving, as she takes marriage seriously, noting that it wasn’t just about the two of them but also their three children—Jennifer, 29, Rory, 26, and Phoebe, 22. “It’s two people who’ve come together, hopefully in love… so pulling it apart later is really hard,” Melinda said, reflecting on the emotional toll.
Melinda, 60, also encouraged others to trust their intuition, even when it means facing painful decisions. The couple married in 1994 but announced their separation in May 2021, finalising their divorce by August. The separation followed reports of Bill’s affair with a Microsoft employee.
Since the divorce, Melinda has found new love with tech entrepreneur Philip Vaughn, while Bill, 69, is dating Paula Hurd, widow of the late Oracle co-CEO Mark Hurd.